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Tuesday, 31 December 2013

When you give something to the poor don't let the thought of how generous you are to run in your head, It's simply some one in need helping someone else in need, he needs you and you need Allah

O Allah there are bodies that got cold and we couldn't do anything for them except pray.. O Allah protect their weakness
 and have mercy on them..

The mother is the only person that forgets to pray for herself because she's too busy praying for her children

In life, some turns could be difficult.. but you have to keep going to reach the end of the road

My God, give rest and ease and then heal every soul that's in pain and You only know about it
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Fortunate is he who has everything in the world but remains as humble as ever, bearing in mind that he has to leave it all behind.

"If a brain has a capacity of say 5kg then a statement worth 10kg will not fit into it no matter how powerful or logical it may be."

U make me cry my boy... Yǟª allah save the children in world...

My prayers are for all who are suffering from these wars and where people are Hungary and cold

Monday, 30 December 2013

Hidup di dunia ini penuh dgn berbagai cabaran dan ujian. Ada yg ringan dan ada yg berat. Ujian juga berbeza2: dpd masalah kewangan, kesihatan, perpisahan, fitnah yg disebarkan org sehingga lah kpd kematian.

Apabila kita ditimpa musibah2 sedemikian, kita perlu cekal dan tabah.

Sering kali org ramai hanya lihat kpd yg zahir sahaja, lalu ada pula yg suka membuat berbagai andaian.. namun hakikatnya Allah swt jua yg Maha Mengetahui.

Maka, sentiasa bersabar dan bertawakkallah kpd Yg Maha Mendengar lagi Maha Mengasihani.

Dan ingatlah bahawa: "Inna lillaahi wa inna ilaihi raajiun" (sesungguhnya kami ini milik Allah dan kpd Allah jualah kami akan kembali)

Sunday, 29 December 2013

First, crossing an ocean is talking about extreme things. Obviously we can't cross oceans for everyone. Moreover, while we give for the sake of Allah, Allah never asked us to kill ourselves in the process.

The more u give to these persons the more they do not appreciate u....they understand our kindness as weakness...i have done this for the sake of Allah...i don't want to lose my dignity ...Allah knows ...its enough for me..

‘You read so many books to know it all, yet fail to ever read your heart at all, you are quick to attack the evil one, yet pride is a battle you have not won.’

Dare to reach out your hand into the darkness, to pull another hand into the light. Perhaps a friend; a relative or a perfect stranger. 

They need you to connect with them. They need you to…notice without critiquing. Appreciate without comparing. Listen without interruption. Question without objection. Challenge without mocking. Consider without doubting. Discuss without criticizing. Give without expectation. Comfort without lying. Guide without misleading. Forgive without resentment. They need you to be you – just the way you are. And they need you to respect them – just the way they are.

Tuesday, 24 December 2013

For the people that i care  and loved.. 
and in turn those who had care and loved me ..
For whom i had the privilege to know, 
and share the sweet memories..
the bond that was shared, the sacrifices that were made..
the smile, laughter and tears..
It is deeply rooted in my heart,
The bond was special its as though our souls had met before
Instantly connected when met.. 
Like the white rose that are as white and pure..
That is how you all are in my eyes..
For these people 
Their inner beauty reflected fr within..radiating..
with beautiful glow...
THEY had seen and take me as I am..
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When i closed my eyes i would imagine the beach which i had missed so much..
I would love again to feel the soft sand beneath my feet..
The smell of the sea..
The wind gently touching my face..
somewhat always the sea had the calming effect on me..
I could stay ages just soaking in the tranquility..
Sometimes i could see a rainbow over the horizon..
The longing to be there..
One day..if Allah permits me when i'm well n fully mobile again.. 

Pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. We don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them wonderful. Every human being is remarkable and beautiful; it just takes a patient set of eyes to see it. The more you get to know someone, the more you will be able to look beyond their appearance and see the beauty of who they truly are.

Keep your doors shut to those who curiously knocks door by door to provide free advertising. They have nothing good to provide you with except gossips. I've heard that the dogs that bring a bone in to your yard would carry a bone out!

Saturday, 21 December 2013

There are some WOMEN that Allah has made more delicate than rose petals. More fragile than crystal. More loving and caring than a man could ever understand. The man neglects her, flirts with other women, and takes all of her gestures for granted. Brothers, if Allah has blessed you with such a woman then please cherish her. Be gentle with her. Love her with all of your heart. Don't be the cause of her becoming emotionally scarred, self disliking, and pessimistic of ever finding true love. 

No bodyguard can ever protect us from the gossips; because in the case of gossip, we are beaten in our absence!

Some little pieces of sand are so full of ego that they see themselves as a giant rock! But then the wind blows, the big ego flies in the air!

Friday, 20 December 2013

I found that my heart inclines towards the broken. And the real. 
If there's anything that brokenness does, it's that: it makes you real.

Monday, 16 December 2013

Sometimes you just need to let people be. No matter how annoying, ridiculous, or shallow you think what they're doing is, just let them be.

Today's note- Know your companion!

I was watching my kids mold stuffs from their play dough. They would come to me sometimes asking to mold a tiger or a lion. I am not very good in this art yet I try but sometimes I deny saying I don't know (which of course bring disappointment to them)
I keep watching them mold the dough into a long snake, ball or a flower. Sometimes they make things that have no shape yet they call them an elephant or a monkey. Kids and their imaginations know no bounds.
But then later on in the day I was thinking of their activity and realized just one thing about life. Our personality depends on whom we are with. We will be molded according to the people whom we are with.
We are like the play dough, soft and smooth but we will be soon changed according to the wishes of others.
But remember, the smoothness and softness will remain, in fact the texture of the dough will be smoother and softer than it has been. But then it would look old, used and soon will be neglected. That is where we realize with whom we were all these days.
The play dough has got no option but you are given an option, option of being wise, option of thinking for yourself. Know your companion before it gets too late.
If you feel you are been used by others like a play dough then don't worry. Everything has a reason behind. Perhaps the God wanted you to be softer and smoother than you have been. You might look old and used but you haven't lost your spirit.
Umm Zaid

One of the amazing qualities of the Prophet (peace be upon him) is that he never made anyone feel insignificant.

“Your true friend is he who is always with you, and he who harms himself in order to help you, and he who, when calamities of the time break you, scatters his cloak in order to save you.”
-— Imām Alī ibn Abī Ṭālib

May the people in our lives that care always overshadow the ones that don't.

Saturday, 14 December 2013

It is easy to tear someone down. It only takes a few words in front of a select audience to do that. But to build up it takes enduring love.

Intentionally humiliating someone, eventually, results in your own ridicule & embarrassment.

You believing you are right doesn't necessarily mean that others must be wrong.

For people to change for the better, they need to be let in, supported and given a CHANCE.

You must care for your brother, but not more than for your own self, family, neighbours and community.
The nearer to you are more worthy of your time, Zakat, sadaqah & attention than the distant.

In the course of your life you will bring a level of harm to some. All of us will. To do so, callously & intentionally bring upon u the Curse of Allah.
Dhulm - injustice will NEVER be overlooked by the Al-Mighty.
Be scared. Be very scared.

Your care & love for someone should not blind you to their errors. Equally your hate for someone should not erase their virtue & past kindness.

When you disrespect your wife in front of others, in particular your inner family, you dishonour yourself. She is your half & what smears her is splashed onto you.

If you don't treat your wife like a Queen & build respect for her amongst all you have influence over, how can u expect to be her King?

Allah responds to the Dua of the wronged & oppressed. Fear their prayers & correct ur injustice immediately before ur destroyed by it.

If meeting a stranger with a cheerful face & smile is charity, how much greater in reward then is the ongoing love & Gentleness shown amongst family

You know you're #OnTheSunnah when you apologise before you are asked to & regret it in your heart more than you state it with your tongue.

A wife-beater is a wife-beater Irrespective of race, colour, ethnicity, religion or Creed. They are cowards with low self esteem.

Treat people the way Allah wants you to treat them, not the way they deserve to be treated.

Pushing others down does not raise you up, except in the eyes of the impure of heart. Rise with the righteousness not the tearing down of others.

A beautiful soul can mask physical imperfections, but physical beauty can do nothing for a disfigured soul.

Ya Allah with You is all that I seek. I ask You by the Noor of Your Face to brighten my life & make my burden light. Strengthen me with Your Strength & Bless me with Your blessing.

Ya Allah give me good in the Dunya & greater in the Akhirah.

Ya Allah prevent illness that distracts from You & cure ailments that weaken me from standing before You.

Ya Allah Forgive those who wrong me & let my prayer for them be Light for me.

Ya Allah I acknowledge my sinfulness, but You are the Lord of Mercy.
Ya Hanaan Ya Mannaan Ya Dhul Jalali wal Ikraam.
I have none but You.

“Don’t forget your own self while preaching to others.”(Umar RA)

Arrogance is building a paper house out of bad intentions, & being audacious enough to believe that it won’t collapse when the rain falls

“A conscience is what hurts when all your other parts feel so good.”

The ones who care,
will always be there.
The ones who don't care
are not there even if they are present.

If your problem in life is as big as a ship, never forget that your blessings are as wide as the ocean

True friends are always there for you. Fake friends only appear when they want something from you.

A woman can adjust and deal with many situations if she is shown appreciation by those around her.

Sometimes we want something so much that we ask all of our friends and relatives to make Dua for us.
But wouldn’t it be amazing if you could get the ANGELS to make Dua for you instead?
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said,
“The supplication of a Muslim for his brother in his absence will certainly be answered. Every time he makes a supplication for good for his brother, the angel appointed for this particular task says: ‘Ameen! May it be for you, too’” (Muslim).
So spread the goodness of Dua between your fellow believers, ask for good on their behalf, and have Allah’s angels themselves respond in kind.
Amazing, subhanAllah!

Friday, 13 December 2013

Wednesday, 11 December 2013

I have decided not to let negativity or insensitivity of another person take hold of my mental realm. You yourself hold the key to it and it is a sphere that only the ones worthy of entering can enter. Do not let anyone and everyone take possession of it and dirty it with their lowly words and tantrums. Expand your inner sphere so that it is capable of enjoying the freedom of forgiveness and warmth of compassion.
-Binth Niwas

Go, forgive that person who displayed their ugly side to you yesterday...
Today is a new day,
Just remember every coin has two sides and humans are not flat characters in life...

Wednesday, 4 December 2013

"The heart is comforted by true words,just as a thirsty man is comforted by water." ~ Rumi

When you bury someone you love, don't allow yourself to bury the memory of that person.

Anytime someone flatters you, flatten your own ego

Do we really have to wait for people to die to mention their good qualities and overlook their flaws?

Remember where you once were so that you don't belittle those that are still there

Human praise is like Monopoly money. It feels good to be 'rich' for a moment. But in Reality that currency has no value. You cant buy anything with it.

Never wish to be in anyone else's shoes, because you can't see the stones inside of them.

When someone does you wrong, don't wrong them back. That's like being given a tray of good deeds and saying "I don't want those!"

Sufyān al-Thawri (raḥimahullāh) was told that there was a group of people who always backbite him so he sent a bowl of fruit and wrote, “I wanted to thank you for giving me your good deeds, so I am sending this bowl to you. Please forgive me for it not being enough to thank you for what you did to me.”

"Support me with your advice in private, and avoid advising me in public. Surely giving advice among the people is a kind of reproach, which I would rather not listen to. If you disobey and ignore my wish, don’t be saddened if you are not obeyed." - Imam Ash Shafiee (rahimahullah)

Giving naseeha (advice) publicly when you know the person and can do so privately shows how little you think of that person

Sometimes your brother/sister needs a shoulder to lean on, not a sermon

To have friends that you can hang out with that don't backbite is rare and special

Those who hate you believe whats said about you. Those who love you believe in you.

When you treat people well, those same people might not treat you the same way. But if you pay attention, you'll notice that Allah has sent OTHER people who treat you even better.

When you cant hold an intelligent conversation without personal insults, it makes you and your argument look silly

Is your idea of 'fun' mocking people, imitating them behind their back, and degrading them for their accent, appearance or any other characteristic? Then pay heed to the words of the Messenger (sallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam):

"The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim, he does not wrong him, let him down or look down upon him. Taqwa (piety, and consciousness of Allah) is here” – and he pointed to his chest three times – “It is sufficient evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. Every Muslim is sacred to another Muslim, his blood, his property and his honor.” (Narrated by Muslim)

Having fun and laughing is a natural thing, but let's not make our gatherings, our homes and our friendships a source of earning the Wrath of Allah!

That someone
Nifla Nawabdeen Hussain Ali
All Rights Reserved at Allah's Presence.

Everyone wants someone
Who would stay through ‘ifs’ and ‘buts’
No matter how hard the times are.

Everyone wants someone
Who would listen them
No matter how nonsense they utter

Everyone wants someone
Who would admire them always
No matter how they look like

Everyone wants someone
Who would love them
No matter how wild they turn.

Everyone, you and me wants that someone,
But no one tries to be THAT SOMEONE.

Friday, 29 November 2013

There are some people who could hear you speak a thousand words, and still not understand you. And there are others who will understand--even without you speaking a word.

When two hearts are connected, the pain that begins in one heart, ends up in the other.

It is a relationship which says , "I exist because WE exist" ..
The pain felt in one heart reaches the other heart faster than anything. And it is not only reached but deeply understood.

But of its not connected, the pain that one heart felt end up with endless pain that the other heart will never understand..

"In the midst of hate, I found there was in me, an invincible love. In the midst of tears, I found there was within me, an invincible calm. I realized that throughout it all, that...In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there's something stronger - something better, pushing right back."

Even in the saddest parts of me , I found that I could smile. Even in my deepest despair , I found that I was still hoping ..!!

Don't let their cold take away your warmth. It's not about them. It's about you and Him.

Don't let this world dry your tears. Because your tears are sacred. They are the sign of a pure heart. Don't let this world harden your heart. It is only made for Him.

Sunday, 24 November 2013

"I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain."

"Fierce, like a lion," the poet says. You're a fighter, my dear. The most important kind of fighter. You are fighting for the life of your heart.

It's tragic that those who put up with the most from us, are often also the ones we take most for granted.

You will meet all sorts of people in your life. The ones that treat you right, beautifying it. But the ones that don't, also beautify it because they make you better appreciate the ones that do.

Sometimes the ones that are there for us most, are the one's we take for granted.

If you are the type of person who says whatever comes to your mind without thinking be certain that you are leaving a trail of broken hearts. Take a few minutes to contemplate your words and consider how it will affect others. By doing this simple act you will save others from a lot of hardship & protect your reputation

The people that are so quick to walk away are the ones that never intended to stay.

Life is a miracle, stop focusing on the negative, instead focus on the flower inside that blooms with self love.

As we grow older, we start to realize what we need and what we need to leave behind.

Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they know your worth, they will surely create one for you.

Sometimes the person who's always there for someone, needs someone to be there for them.

Saturday, 23 November 2013

How are we to save the HUMANITY from the strings of cruelty and deepening peril, if we do not know how to treat a HUMAN HEART that we come across in our yesterdays, today and tomorrows?

Sunday, 17 November 2013

“Let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished as you think you are. To believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less than perfect, is to believe that sunlight is incapable of entering a broken window and illuminating a dark room.”—

Here's a spiritual exercise, a way to turn theory into practice: Think of a person in need. Then wake up tonight, a little before fajr (dawn) prayer, and make sincere, intense duaa (supplication) for that person or persons. You will help them and yourself immensely because that is the time when Allah comes to the nearest heaven and looks for people calling on Him! And when you make duaa for another person, an angel says "ameen, and for you the same."

We are often a people of quantity. But we forget that Allah also looks at quality. For example, a single good deed can be multiplied and magnified on the scales, due to the intention and state of heart behind it. "To save one life is like saving all of humanity." (Quran 5:32)
So while we cannot help every person we see in need, if we can help even one person, with a full heart, and not expecting anything in return from them, it could be as if we helped all of humanity.

When you sense that someone needs help, help them, without expecting anything in return. Allah is the One who made you feel that person's need.

Sometimes the quietest people have the loudest hearts.

Hearts that feel a lot are unable to express their feelings with mere words. Words are not enough for such people. They adopt the pace of nature : Silence.

Quiet doesn't mean they have nothing to say, but sometimes there's just too lot to say at a time that silence is the best way of answer the packed in the heart.

The danger of trying to judge the inside of a situation, from the outside, is that you're almost always wrong.

Wednesday, 13 November 2013

And sadness is when you know you will never hear your loved ones voice again ...

Hearts are beautiful--not accomplishments. Only the beauty of the heart can infuse beauty into a result.

"How did the rose ever open its heart and give to this world all its beauty? It felt the encouragement of light against its being; otherwise, we all remain too frightened."--Hafiz

I tell you to keep going, not because it's easy. Not because it doesn't hurt. I tell you to keep going because there's no other way. To stop is to die. Life is in motion. In growth. In change. Life is in seeking and in finding. Life is in redemption. Each moment is a new birth. A new chance to come back, to get it right.
A new chance to make it better.

Friday, 8 November 2013

Some have been hurt so much, they no longer feel hurt - subhanAllah.

For example think of the people of Palestine, they've been hurt so much - that they no longer feel pain, for most part. It becomes a means of rejuvenation. How many people come from broken homes, or homes full of arguments, where they learn to live - the pain becomes part of their lives, that they begin to live with it.

It is a mental state, a sad mental state - but it becomes part of someones life due to the pain. A coping mechanism, where really, they turn to Allah (subhanahu wa ta 'ala) instea

To slap someone hard and expect them to listen - doesn't make sense. Thus we learn refutation is not the way of the Prophets (as). Rather they called to the truth beautifully, with wisdom - and even if others disagreed, they respected their teaching methods.

Sometimes it’s easier to shut down, just so you can move forward. And at times it’s the only way to succeed, watering it consistently with the remembrance of Allah (swt) to ensure you’re kept sane. Caring enough so you heart remains alive, but ceasing to care to an extent - so you can still excel, regardless of the criticism which comes your way.

A woman is like a pearl hidden away in a shell deep into the ocean. If you want to truly understand her, you have to be willing to dive deep into the roaring sea, passing by the sharks (stereotypes), poisonous plants (other people’s standards) and then open the shell slowly but surely (with patience and persistence). If you’re willing to dive, make time, for His sake then you’ll be able to fully appreciate her beauty and in turn His Might.

Tiny pebbles become huge mountains, breaking beautiful hearts in the process - due to bad manners. Whether it's bad language, a lack of care or a bad attitude.

But here's the thing, huge mountains can be broken. They can return to their smooth state and in turn, beautiful hearts can appreciate their delicacy.

I saw him every day, sitting there in the cold. He was like many in the UK, homeless, left there to the cold. Generally I would walk by, feel guilty and make du'a to Allah to ease their pain. Today was different though, today I stopped, I handed something to him, it was little, nothing to brag about.

He stopped, looked up and made my day, like I had made his day. He made a prayer for me, it wasn't the prayer which touched my heart, it was his deep appreciation that someone actually cared. Now I look for him every day, hoping to be that person once again insha Allah.

We have people around us, just waiting to be cared about. To be listened too. We have individuals yearning for that special friend, some intense care. Either we can walk past all these opportunities in our life, or we can extend a helping hand and receive a great return. We must depend on the One above alone, and when we do, we're strong enough to help those around.

May Allah (subhanahu wa ta 'ala) make us of those who give and give, hoping for a Great Return from Him. Aameen.

So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know who you are in your heart and what’s true to you. What matters to you. You don’t have to be perfect, or cool, or meet their trends to impress and inspire them. Rather, let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections and if they walk away then Allah (subhanahu wa ta 'ala) will bless you with friends who appreciate you for who you are and it'll be like they make up for all the lonely moments in the past chasing after individuals who never understood you to begin with - as long you sincere and care about who you are. Allah knows.

Those who misunderstand you aren't always your enemies - they just don't know how to deal with your imperfections.

"As I look at my arms I notice they’re smooth, scar less. Then I look to my heart and deep within I notice the slits. The scars. And I wonder, where did it go wrong? Then I look around me, finally now, years later I’ve finally understand the reason behind the tests. The reason why I held on, even though they caused me despair. I didn’t give up then and now, I see the goodness of my care.

Your scars are signs you survived the tests. They have made you stronger. They have made you bolder. Personally, through them I understand, without Allah (subhanahu wa ta ‘ala) who is there worthy of my dependence? Who hears my cries, when Shaytan tells me my dreams are a lie? Truly Allah, Al-Qawiy (The Most Strong) is stronger than any test which causes me despair.

Because sometimes the best thing to do is… to soldier on!

We all respect maturity, but what is it? Maturity for some is assertiveness and for others is intelligence. But for some it's understanding another's situation when they hurt or harm you, rather than hitting and hurting them back.

I find loyalty so beautiful - when you meet people who will love you for who you are, accept you regardless of your imperfections - feel your pain and make it theirs. They are a few - but for me, I wish they never leave.

We look at the gems in our hands and see them as soil, dark and dry due to the sun. Whereas, those oversees embrace the soil, add water and nurture them until become diamonds. If only we embraced the soil like those who had nothing, cherishing them with a smile.

It's hard to hate someone if you're willing to understand them - the sad part is not many people are willing to step into their shoes and appreciate why it went wrong. If only we did, we'd be happier and so would they.

Wednesday, 6 November 2013

Have you ever noticed that Rolls Royce and Bentley don't have commercials?

Reason: they know the value of their product brings customers to them.

Lesson: when you know your value you don't have to beg people to like you, or to be your mate, or to spend time with you, or to love you. Be confident in who you are. Everyone can't afford the luxury of your friendship.

Friday, 1 November 2013

We live in a society that looks down upon sensitivity, equating it with weakness. As a result, those blessed with natural sensitivity spend their lives apologizing for it and feeling like there's something wrong with them. But I can assure you, being sensitive does not mean you're weak. Some of the strongest people in our history have also been among the most sensitive. The greatest example, of course, being our beloved Prophet, peace be upon him.

"Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test."

Friday, 25 October 2013

"Do not assume that she who seeks to comfort you now, lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good. Her life may also have much sadness and difficulty, that remains far beyond yours. Were it otherwise, she would never have been able to find these words.”

People who are a source of comfort to others have suffered the most pain. Those who smile to make others happy sometimes cries inwardly. They cry bitter and saddest tears alone and in front of Allah.
People who seem most strong to others often cry at nights. They have lived the heights of sadness and they know the real pain : people who comfort others !

I think people are sick and tired of having to apologize for being human. We are constantly made to feel bad for feeling bad. Our creator didn’t only create laughter; He also created tears. And they both serve a purpose. Let’s stop fragmenting the human experience.

"And ever has it been known that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."-Khalil Gibran

When we want to see the depth of our relationship with some people , we measure it by the level of emptiness we feel without that person. We can talk with nearly anyone but feel the absence of only a few people: People who can't be replaced in our life.
Thats is the reason it is best said : Absence sharpens love

If you ever doubt that you will get thru this, just remember the past. Remember all the times you thought you'd never get thru, and yet He carried you to where you are now

Resilience is very different than being numb. Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, you hurt.
You fall. But, you keep going.

Nature is resilient. Leaves wilt , they fall, but again they recover by the grace of Allah. Everything in nature is in a healing process. Trees lose their leaves and fruits but they recover.
Same is our heart, Our heart is healed eventually. Thats why no one is sad forever !

Friday, 18 October 2013

Sunday, 13 October 2013

Each person who is in your life is for a reason. The Creator in His Infinite Wisdom has chosen each family member for a purpose. There is a lesson that you need to learn from this person. So ask yourself: what it is that I am meant to learn? Sometimes the thing we are meant to learn is how NOT to act. Once you embrace this concept and accept it- you can focus on the lesson rather than complain about the test.

Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from ~

Mindfulness is being able to let go of our fears, our attachments to control and being right, our expectations and entitlements, and our judgement of others. It's living in the HERE and NOW!

"The more secure a person is regarding his own acceptability,
the more certain his sense of who he is,
and the more safely internalized his system of values,
the more self confidently and effectively will he be able to offer his love...
without undue feelings of rejection and humiliation

With each passing day you are faced with a multitude of choices. The way you prioritize will effect how you choose.

If you make it a priority to always act according to your beliefs and to live up to your ideal, you will always respect yourself and feel at peace.

If you keep in mind that you are creating memories for yourself and your loved ones, you will make sure you don't act in a way that you will regret later. Create lasting and powerful memories that you can look back on and smile and feel a deep sense of gratitude not shame.

It is all the little things we do that makes a huge difference in the lives of our loved ones and in others:
Making an effort to be friendly
giving a sincere compliment
Sweet message
believing in someone
helping someone in need
Giving a loving hug
Appreciating hard work
Laughing at a good joke
Being present and attentive
Understanding setbacks
Small sentimental gifts

The ultimate loss is the loss of integrity and morals. Regardless of your circumstances never compromise on your morals and always keep your integrity. Remain steadfast on your beliefs and never change to fit in or to impress others. Living with this principle will fill your heart and mind with serenity.

It is so easy to say I trust my creator and I believe that He knows what's best for me, but this trust has to be demonstrated through our behavior and our acceptance of our destiny. It is never enough to proclaim our beliefs- it ALWAYS has to be supported by our actions. Next time you are tested: take a deep breath, make your first words be alhamdulillah (thank God) and show complete submission by not complaining.

There are times in life when our sense of security is shaken to the core: an unexpected event, death of a loved one, loss of a job or a sudden move. Our attitude and ability to accept our destiny will determine whether we rise to the occasion or fall to despair. Without having TRUST we would definitely feel lost and alone. When we cultivate a strong sense of trust we can remain at peace in the midst of the storm and hold on strong to hope.

When you have been wronged or mistreated is when your true character shines through.

Friday, 11 October 2013

Regardless of how many times you have been lied to, deceived or betrayed NEVER LOSE HOPE in the GOODNESS OF HUMANITY. Yes, there are weak, pathetic people out there who are only consumed with following their lusts- disregarding all morals & ethics. Those individuals will either live their lives in guilt and remorse or worse they will live a life of apathy. For every indecent person in the world there are dozens of good hearted, God conscious individuals who look beyond their own desires and truly want to live according to their beliefs. DON’T LET THE BAD ACTIONS OF A FEW JADE YOUR VIEW OF THE WORLD! Let’s be filled with hopefulness even when faced with the biggest challenges. When have you pleasantly been surprised by the goodness of humanity?

Our good health is something we generally take for granted until we get sick. Take the time to appreciate all the AMAZING blessings you have each and every day because if just one of your organs malfunctioned you would be down. As you numerate all that you are grateful for you will start feeling like the richest and happiest person around. Start making the list! Have you ever experienced being really sick then having a paradigm shift in your level of appreciation for your health and for life?

Only share what is in your heart with a genuinely caring individual who has wisdom and knowledge to advise you or else you will end up feeling empty and misunderstood.

Being able to see things from another person's perspective is so critical in becoming tolerant, understanding and sympathetic. The next time you are disagreeing with someone or you feel agitated because you are not getting your way: PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES AND SEE THEIR PERSPECTIVE. It takes maturity and self-discipline to step outside yourself to get a better understanding of the people & the world around you

Each and every one of us need to cultivate tolerance and respect for the opinions of others regardless how different or shocking the views may be. We CAN NOT judge others harshly because they are not our ideological clones. We need to live by our adult selves and respond to differences with the desire to understand NOT the desire to knock some sense into a person. There would be so much less violence and injustice if we just learned to embrace our differences and live side by side with mutual respect. We are after all brothers and sisters in humanity.

How have you been able to come to terms with the differences you witness in others and live peacefully amongst them?

Many times we have preconceived notions about others. We categorize them and then we expect them to act in certain ways. Many times this jeopardizes relationships. Give others a chance to redeem themselves, to improve and to change. If we always hold on to their old image we stand in the way of them making a breakthrough!

There is something very heart warming about bonding with a complete stranger due to a strong spiritual connection- you don't even have to speak the same language or speak at all but your hearts and souls speak volumes.

It is so easy to judge people by their appearances and stereotype. Take a moment and get to know the person before you judge. Many times you find that your perception of them was all wrong. Be proactive, initiate a conversation and watch your assumptions and stereotypes just fade away.

Sometimes there are 2 people who experience the same trauma but one will be haunted by it and the other one will be free from any scars. It is not the events in your life that shape you but your interpretation of those events that shape you. If you find meaning in the pain and see it as an opportunity to grow and learn you will overcome the obstacles and embrace the challenges in life.

Many times all we tend to focus on is the negative traits of the people around us. We judge, criticize, and correct with no mercy seeing ourselves as somehow superior or more knowledgeable. This is an act of ignorance.

The more we know the more humble it should make us. When our hearts are filled with compassion and love we will use the most gentle way to effect the hearts by giving constructive criticism. When our hearts are filled with pride and arrogance we will just want to prove others wrong by being harsh and unyielding making judgment calls on everyone around us.

If we spend all our energy and effort in improving ourselves we won't have too much time obsessing over other people's shortcomings.

Someone I know had a near death experience this week & was in a coma for many hours. It really got me to think about how unpredictable life is. None of us know how long we have to live. Treat the people in your life in such a manner that they will be left with the most beautiful memories & utilize your time so that they will be your ongoing charity. What can you change in yourself & in your actions knowing that each day may be your last?

One of the most important traits to have is TOLERANCE and ACCEPTANCE of people who are different from us. It's so easy to label others and see them as weird or inadequate because they don't meet our standards, but it takes a very mature, mindful and compassionate person to look beyond stereotypes and try to build bridges. I challenge you to demonstrate that tolerance & acceptance when faced with people who are different by having an open mind and an open heart and see what can come out of it!

PSYCHOLOGICAL AND EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS ARE REAL and THEY WILL NOT JUST GO AWAY WITHOUT TREATMENT. There are a multitude of people who desperately need assessment and treatment for their issues yet family members are not supportive and they forbid it. There is a fear of having a stigma if a family member goes to a psychologist. As a society we have to overcome this fear and recognize the NECESSITY of this service just the way we realize the need for medical care.

My question is this: What would you think of people who deny their family members of medical attention when they are sick in fear of what people would say? If a person doesn't take their parents or their children who are suffering from pneumonia or cancer in hopes that the disease will simply go away with time - what would be your reaction?

Please support your loved ones with the gift of understanding and recognize their need for assessment and treatment from trustworthy specialists.

When we are faced with difficult family relationships it can really effect us emotionally. We can feel discouraged, lonely, frustrated or even angry. We may look around and see that others have it much easier than us - they don't have the same tests! That's when we have to realize that our creator has designed our tests specifically to suit our on-going spiritual and emotional growth. We are given 'couture problems' to fit our ever growing ego and it is through these impossible family members that our ego is somehow deflated or tamed. If all relationships are pleasant and enriching we may never reach our full potential to empathize, to be humble or to develop new coping skills. We need to embrace the difficult people in our lives and see them as an opportunity to learn and gain massive rewards through our patience!!!!

When you feel overwhelmed by troubles around you and everyone is hurting you learn to rise above the disputes. Imagine yourself in a hot air balloon rising above the trivialities, not hearing or seeing the people. As you rise, there will definitely be people who want to bring you down from your hot air balloon ride by throwing ropes to you. Simply don't accept it!

In all the years I have done therapy I have heard so many stories of abuse, betrayal and oppression that when I see someone who is angry, bitter or cold not only do I not take it personally I feel sympathy for the battles they must be fighting within.

When I see a cashier who is incapable of smiling, an irate driver or a depressed teacher instead of feeling outraged or offended by their behavior I reflect on the many things that may have happened to them to be so emotionally unstable: a fight with their spouse, abusive childhood, verbal abuse, tragic accident, loss of parents....the list can go on and on.

In making excuses for others like the Prophet Mohammad (peace and prayers upon him) has taught us, our hearts soften towards people who are silently suffering. Even those who are aggressive and ruthless are crying for help and need our understanding rather than our wrath.

Sending prayers for them to heal is much more productive and humane than picking a fight with them- they already have so much they are dealing with.

When have you been able to see through the rudeness or indifference and show sympathy?

With all the diversity, differences in opinions, ideological and religious differences it takes a really mature, wise and stable individual to search for a unifying thread in each person they encounter. It is much easier to label and blacklist a person.

It takes effort to fight your temptation to hate, it takes strength of character not to succumb to the desire to annihilate the person who opposes your world view, it takes humility to overcome your pride, but once you do you will feel elevated to a new level of consciousness, compassion & understanding. Your reaction to people who oppose you reflects how big or little of a person you are.

Search for things that unite you with others instead of hating the differences.

Instead of blaming your parents, your circumstances or the economy for your problems take ownership of your situation to create solutions. Live with purpose and passion

Do you want to connect with your loved ones? Put yourself in their shoes...I mean really try to see through their eyes and their perspective by keeping in mind their upbringing and their experiences. It's amazing how your heart will soften and your critical voice will turn off once you try to understand where they are coming from. When have you applied this & what magical outcome did it have?

Take the time to emotionally connect with the people around you. Many times we just go through the motions of life and we lack genuine connection. Listen to people's stories, find out what is matters to them and most importantly remember what they shared for HUGE EMOTIONAL DEPOSITS. Showing that you care and listening when someone is in need will never be forgotten!

Only when the hating stops can the healing begin.

When you look in the mirror ladies and nit pick about your features, complain about your complexion, eyes, nose, thighs, hips....who are you criticizing?
Most people say they are criticizing themselves, but in reality you are criticizing the One who created you.

Instead of complaining be thankful and see how your peace and self-esteem will grow. You are beautiful regardless of your size, shape or color. Celebrate what you have been given and start smiling at the reflection you see in the mirror.

Many times we have preconceived notions about others. We categorize them and then we expect them to act in certain ways. Many times this jeopardizes relationships. Give others a chance to redeem themselves, to improve and to change. If we always hold on to their old image we stand in the way of them making a breakthrough!

We all have buttons that can trigger the most unexpected reactions. When you are in a relationship where someone is toying with your buttons on purpose the best thing you can do is DEACTIVATE YOUR BUTTONS. The way you do that is not to react to your strong urge to react. Stay cool and in control and don't react. If you do this enough times you are training others while at the same time you train yourself to remain calm. Once you do this enough times then you will not allow others to press your buttons anymore- the remote is in your hands and the buttons have been deactivated!

If you have ever had anything precious taken away from you whether it was a loved one, a job, or your health, you know very well that through the loss you gained a new perspective. Deprivation leads to appreciation. Look at your losses as a chance to increase your sense of gratitude. But, don't wait for the losses in order to start appreciating.

It is inevitable that you will have problems in your relationships. The most effective ways to resolve conflict:
1. Listen with an open heart
2. First try to understand then be understood
3. Have compassion
4. Think win/win
5. Be mature & act like an adult
6. Act in a way that your creator will be pleased with you

Monday, 7 October 2013

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Please, Be Back..
-Sumaiah Ismail 
All rights reserved @Allah's presence 

It's been hours since they left,
I await, sitting on a floor that is cleft,
I wait not for a garment or toy,
Her embrace gives me joy.
He keeps telling me to aim high, 
Her voice is my lullaby,
They should be back by four-thirty,
What keeps them away for 'eternity'.
I run to my grandma hurriedly,
Who answers the phone call worriedly.
'Where is my mama?'
I ask her,
'Where is my papa?'
I enquire her,
Collapsing down completely,
She starts to sob inconsolably,
With a trembling voice that is weak,
Tears roll down her cheek,
She holds my arms so tight,
And says 'Everything's gonna be alright'.
I know not what she means, I glare at the TV screen,
People running here and there,
Black smoke everywhere,
But that's what I see everyday,
What difference does it make today?

And suddenly it hits,
A blow too hard to resist,
I feel it,
I sense it,
My world shatters into pieces.

So that's the reason she mourns,
Oh! I just wanna be alone!
Someone tell me,
This is not happening.
Please, someone tell me,
This is just a dream.
I feel my eyes drenching,
I sense my heart giving in,
No! No no! No no!
It can never ever be so.
I hopefully run to the doorsteps,
Hearing someone's footsteps,
My eyes scan the far horizon,
Searching those familiar faces.

I'm sure they will be back,
I know they will be back,
Oh God! Let them be back!

Picture of Peace

There once was a King who offered a prize to the artist who would paint the best picture of peace. Many artists tried. The King looked at all the pictures, but there were only two he really liked and he had to choose between them.

One picture was of a calm lake. The lake was a perfect mirror, for peaceful towering mountains were all around it. Overhead was a blue sky with fluffy white clouds. All who saw this picture thought that it was a perfect picture of peace.

The other picture had mountains, too. But these were rugged and bare. Above was an angry sky from which rain fell and in which lightening played. Down the side of the mountain tumbled a foaming waterfall. This did not look peaceful at all. But when the King looked, he saw behind the waterfall a tiny bush growing in a crack in the rock. In the bush a mother bird had built her nest. There, in the midst of the rush of angry water, sat the mother bird on her nest, perfect peace.

Which picture do you think won the prize?

The King chose the second picture. Do you know why?

Because, as explained by the King: "Peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart. That is the real meaning of peace."

The Moral of the Story: Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace, contentment and joy in the world outside.

Allah (SWT) says in Noble Qur'an: "Those who believe and whose hearts find satisfaction in the remembrance of Allah: for without doubt in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find satisfaction." (Surah al-Rad 13:28)

Saturday, 5 October 2013

Caring too much can make you try harder. But ironically, caring too much can also make you not try at all, out of fear failure.

"Do good and throw it into the sea, for even if the fish do not notice, God will."

Don't ever think you are worthless. Allah created you for a reason and that reasons was definitely NOT worthless.

Tuesday, 1 October 2013

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"Forgiveness doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. You have to forgive. You don’t have to like what happened, you don’t have to cherish the memories, you don’t have to hold on to the people and circumstances involved, but you do have to forgive them, let go, make peace with your past and move on with your present."
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"When we continue to let someone in our lives repeatedly hurt us, we are saying to them that they matter more to us than our self-respect and our dignity, and that if they continue with these types of behaviors that we'll continue to let them in our lives. In order to take a stand for ourselves we must be willing to part ways with people whom we know that we've given a significant amount of chances to. Though letting go can sometimes cause us a lot of pain, it's necessary for us to provide the best future possible for ourselves. Love yourself or no one else will."

As much as we must not delay to resolve matters between us, sadly at times we have no choice but to leave it for the Day of Reckoning.

if people only knew, they would rush to reconcile differences.

If saving an animal is so rewarding, imagine saving a human being...

There can be more than one way of doing things. A difference of opinion shouldn't create hatred amongst us.

The habit of "faultfinding" blinds us of all the goodness of others and gets to a stage where fault is found even where it does not exist.

Monday, 30 September 2013

Knock Knock,
Who's there?
"Remember you had bad words about so and so once upon a time, well that's me. I've come to visit YOU now!"

past mistakes n especially gossip, have a way of catching up with u

Some people have no constructive contribution to humanity so they choose to be destructive, spreading hatred, chaos & confusion.

Sunday, 29 September 2013

They'll continue to judge you, criticize you, monitor your actions and track your mistakes. But don't worry as long as your connection is fixed with Allah and your intentions are sincere to Him Subhanahu'wa'Tala.
All what you should care about is pleasing Allah not people.

There was a Taabi'i known for his miserliness. He didn't defend or explain himself to anyone. When his time came and died feeding was cut from many of the muslim's houses in madina. And when they checked this man's body before burying him they found marks of the flour bags that he used to carry at night for charity.

SubhanAllah that's the true meaning of sincerity. Pleasing Allah is the only thing you should worry about.

'There is such an Hour on Friday that if any muslim makes Du'a in it .His Du'a will definitely be accepted '

Never look at the situation of another and think “I wish I had it like they do.” Allah put you in your life because only you can handle it.

Friday, 27 September 2013

When I feel sick I can realize what I was getting for free everyday! Alhamdulillah.....

"Its nice when someone remembers small details about you, not because you always

remind them, but just because they care."

"At the end of the day, you will not remember the person with the beautiful face, but you will remember the person with the most beautiful heart and soul."

"Don't be Upset and caught up with things or people you cannot Change. Instead, Move on, Let go and Concentrate on what you can change. Things that will enhance your Life. You deserve to be Happy"

Sometimes when people insult you, your only option is to leave it for the Almighty to deal with. - Mufti Ismail Menk

"Never make fun of anyone who can not do what you can do easily , it’s easy for you because Allah (SWT) made it easy for you."

"If I were to argue with 1000 learned people, I may win the argument, but if I were to argue with a fool, I would surely lose." ---Imam Shafi'i (ra)

“Making fun of an obese person will not make you any skinnier. Making fun of someone who is not beautiful will not make you any prettier. Making fun of a failure in any matter will not make you successful. So, leave off the creation and seek the Creator. Work on improving yourself... instead of commenting on others.” -Sheikh Muhammad al-‘Arifi

But before u think of pointing the finger or condemning another - Remember that not one of us is without sin and we all answer to one MAKER.

Healing takes time.. Whether it's from an illness, a broken heart, a wound etc. It's in that time that you learn SO much about yourself
and SO much about those around you. And without you even knowing, you become a stronger person.

Sometimes the rocks are softer than some people's hearts

Certain relationships are more important than others and therefore deserve more time and effort than others. For example, it just would not make sense for you to hold your friends in high respect while you mistreat your parents. You can’t abandon your own children and be helping other children. Charity always begins at home.

Tuesday, 24 September 2013

If you could just be nice, then you wouldn't have to worry about arguments at all. but being nice wasn't as easy as it seemed, especially when the rest of the world could be so mean.

Sunday, 22 September 2013

Let us not allow our countless blessings to make us immune to the heartrending struggles of others.

When you are lonely
I wish you love
When you are down
I wish you joy
When you are troubled
I wish you peace
When things are complicated
I wish you simple beauty
When things are chaotic
I wish you inner silence
When things look empty
I wish you hope —

What a beautiful tradition
This story will warm you better than a coffee on a cold winter day:
"We enter a little coffeehouse with a friend of mine and give our order. While we're approaching our table two people come in and they go to the counter -

'Five coffees, please. Two of them for us and three suspended'
They pay for their order, take the two and leave. I ask my friend:
'What are those 'suspended' coffees ?'
'Wait for it and you will see'

Some more people enter. Two girls ask for one coffee each, pay and go. The next order was for seven coffees and it was made by three lawyers - three for them and four 'suspended'. While I still wonder what's the deal with those 'suspended' coffees I enjoy the sunny weather and the beautiful view towards the square in front of the café. Suddenly a man dressed in shabby clothes who looks like a beggar comes in through the door and kindly asks
'Do you have a suspended coffee ?'

It's simple - people pay in advance for a coffee meant for someone who can not afford a warm beverage. The tradition with the suspended coffees started in Naples, but it has spread all over the world and in some places you can order not only a suspended coffee, but also a sandwich or a whole meal."