When you feel overwhelmed by troubles around you and everyone is hurting you learn to rise above the disputes. Imagine yourself in a hot air balloon rising above the trivialities, not hearing or seeing the people. As you rise, there will definitely be people who want to bring you down from your hot air balloon ride by throwing ropes to you. Simply don't accept it!



In all the years I have done therapy I have heard so many stories of abuse, betrayal and oppression that when I see someone who is angry, bitter or cold not only do I not take it personally I feel sympathy for the battles they must be fighting within.

When I see a cashier who is incapable of smiling, an irate driver or a depressed teacher instead of feeling outraged or offended by their behavior I reflect on the many things that may have happened to them to be so emotionally unstable: a fight with their spouse, abusive childhood, verbal abuse, tragic accident, loss of parents....the list can go on and on.

In making excuses for others like the Prophet Mohammad (peace and prayers upon him) has taught us, our hearts soften towards people who are silently suffering. Even those who are aggressive and ruthless are crying for help and need our understanding rather than our wrath.

Sending prayers for them to heal is much more productive and humane than picking a fight with them- they already have so much they are dealing with.

When have you been able to see through the rudeness or indifference and show sympathy?



With all the diversity, differences in opinions, ideological and religious differences it takes a really mature, wise and stable individual to search for a unifying thread in each person they encounter. It is much easier to label and blacklist a person.

It takes effort to fight your temptation to hate, it takes strength of character not to succumb to the desire to annihilate the person who opposes your world view, it takes humility to overcome your pride, but once you do you will feel elevated to a new level of consciousness, compassion & understanding. Your reaction to people who oppose you reflects how big or little of a person you are.

Search for things that unite you with others instead of hating the differences.

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