Monday, 30 September 2013
"Remember you had bad words about so and so once upon a time, well that's me. I've come to visit YOU now!"
past mistakes n especially gossip, have a way of catching up with u
Some people have no constructive contribution to humanity so they choose to be destructive, spreading hatred, chaos & confusion.
Sunday, 29 September 2013
They'll continue to judge you, criticize you, monitor your actions and track your mistakes. But don't worry as long as your connection is fixed with Allah and your intentions are sincere to Him Subhanahu'wa'Tala.
All what you should care about is pleasing Allah not people.
There was a Taabi'i known for his miserliness. He didn't defend or explain himself to anyone. When his time came and died feeding was cut from many of the muslim's houses in madina. And when they checked this man's body before burying him they found marks of the flour bags that he used to carry at night for charity.
SubhanAllah that's the true meaning of sincerity. Pleasing Allah is the only thing you should worry about.
'There is such an Hour on Friday that if any muslim makes Du'a in it .His Du'a will definitely be accepted '
Never look at the situation of another and think “I wish I had it like they do.” Allah put you in your life because only you can handle it.
Friday, 27 September 2013
When I feel sick I can realize what I was getting for free everyday! Alhamdulillah.....
"Its nice when someone remembers small details about you, not because you always
remind them, but just because they care."
"At the end of the day, you will not remember the person with the beautiful face, but you will remember the person with the most beautiful heart and soul."
"Don't be Upset and caught up with things or people you cannot Change. Instead, Move on, Let go and Concentrate on what you can change. Things that will enhance your Life. You deserve to be Happy"
Sometimes when people insult you, your only option is to leave it for the Almighty to deal with. - Mufti Ismail Menk
"Never make fun of anyone who can not do what you can do easily , it’s easy for you because Allah (SWT) made it easy for you."
"If I were to argue with 1000 learned people, I may win the argument, but if I were to argue with a fool, I would surely lose." ---Imam Shafi'i (ra)
“Making fun of an obese person will not make you any skinnier. Making fun of someone who is not beautiful will not make you any prettier. Making fun of a failure in any matter will not make you successful. So, leave off the creation and seek the Creator. Work on improving yourself... instead of commenting on others.” -Sheikh Muhammad al-‘Arifi
But before u think of pointing the finger or condemning another - Remember that not one of us is without sin and we all answer to one MAKER.
Healing takes time.. Whether it's from an illness, a broken heart, a wound etc. It's in that time that you learn SO much about yourself
and SO much about those around you. And without you even knowing, you become a stronger person.
Sometimes the rocks are softer than some people's hearts
Certain relationships are more important than others and therefore deserve more time and effort than others. For example, it just would not make sense for you to hold your friends in high respect while you mistreat your parents. You can’t abandon your own children and be helping other children. Charity always begins at home.
Tuesday, 24 September 2013
If you could just be nice, then you wouldn't have to worry about arguments at all. but being nice wasn't as easy as it seemed, especially when the rest of the world could be so mean.
Sunday, 22 September 2013
Let us not allow our countless blessings to make us immune to the heartrending struggles of others.
MY WISH FOR YOU
When you are lonely
I wish you love
When you are down
I wish you joy
When you are troubled
I wish you peace
When things are complicated
I wish you simple beauty
When things are chaotic
I wish you inner silence
When things look empty
I wish you hope —
What a beautiful tradition
This story will warm you better than a coffee on a cold winter day:
"We enter a little coffeehouse with a friend of mine and give our order. While we're approaching our table two people come in and they go to the counter -
'Five coffees, please. Two of them for us and three suspended'
They pay for their order, take the two and leave. I ask my friend:
'What are those 'suspended' coffees ?'
'Wait for it and you will see'
Some more people enter. Two girls ask for one coffee each, pay and go. The next order was for seven coffees and it was made by three lawyers - three for them and four 'suspended'. While I still wonder what's the deal with those 'suspended' coffees I enjoy the sunny weather and the beautiful view towards the square in front of the café. Suddenly a man dressed in shabby clothes who looks like a beggar comes in through the door and kindly asks
'Do you have a suspended coffee ?'
It's simple - people pay in advance for a coffee meant for someone who can not afford a warm beverage. The tradition with the suspended coffees started in Naples, but it has spread all over the world and in some places you can order not only a suspended coffee, but also a sandwich or a whole meal."
The good you find in others, is in you too.
The faults you find in others, are your faults as well.
After all, to recognize something you must know it.
The possibilities you see in others, are possible for you as well.
The beauty you see around you, is your beauty.
The world around you is a reflection, a mirror showing you the person you are.
To change your world, you must change yourself.
To blame and complain will only make matters worse.
Whatever you care about, is your responsibility.
What you see in others, shows you yourself.
See the best in others, and you will be your best.
Give to others, and you give to yourself.
Appreciate beauty, and you will be beautiful.
Admire creativity, and you will be creative.
Love, and you will be loved.
Seek to understand, and you will be understood.
Listen, and your voice will be heard.
Teach, and you will learn.
Show your best face to the mirror,
And you'll be happy with the face looking back at you.
This story gets me every time.
A nurse took the tired, anxious serviceman to the bedside. “Your son is here,” she said to the old man. She had to repeat the words several times before the patient’s eyes opened.
Heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he dimly saw the young uniformed Marine standing outside the oxygen tent. He reached out his hand. The Marine wrapped his toughened fingers around the old man’s limp ones, squeezing a message of love and encouragement.
The nurse brought a chair so that the Marine could sit beside the bed. All through the night the young Marine sat there in the poorly lighted ward, holding the old man’s hand and offering him words of love and strength. Occasionally, the nurse suggested that the Marine move away and rest awhile. He refused.
Whenever the nurse came into the ward, the Marine was oblivious of her and of the night noises of the hospital - the clanking of the oxygen tank, the laughter of the night staff members exchanging greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients. Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man said nothing, only held tightly to his son all through the night.
Along towards dawn, the old man died. The Marine released the now lifeless hand he had been holding and went to tell the nurse. While she did what she had to do, he waited.
Finally, she returned. She started to offer words of sympathy, but the Marine interrupted her, “Who was that man?” he asked.
The nurse was startled, “He was your father,” she answered.
“No, he wasn't,” the Marine replied. “I never saw him before in my life.”
“Then why didn't you say something when I took you to him?”
“I knew right away there had been a mistake, but I also knew he needed his son, and his son just wasn't here. When I realized that he was too sick to tell whether or not I was his son, knowing how much he needed me, I stayed. I came here tonight to find a Mr. William Grey. His Son was killed in Iraq today, and I was sent to inform him. What was this Gentleman’s Name? “
The nurse with tears in her eyes answered, “Mr. William Grey………”
The next time someone needs you… just be there.
Friday, 20 September 2013
My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me and that what misses me was never meant for me.
' A True believer would never wish a blessing to be taken away from his brother '
"I wish you knew what I have in my heart for you, but there is no way for you to know except by my actions."
"You want to know whether or not you can trust someone? Hand them your vulnerability and watch what they do with it."
Sometimes it's really Hard for people to understand that there's another World out there...the One who brought you here...can easily bring you to another....
Let your smile change the world, don't let the world change your smile!
“I do not care about anyone finding fault in me;
As long as I am not blameworthy with Allah.
If Allah knows the purity of my innermost heart;
Then I am not harmed by some unfounded slander.”
Thursday, 19 September 2013
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Withered moments are triggered
As the thunder and lightening reign the sky
The feeble soul stern ‘n’ strong in eyes
Weeps far beneath the heart
Drenched in invisible tears
Trying its best to collect his thirst of love
Along with his ragged clothe in the stormy evening ..
The bony, weak figure appears to be tied to the basket
Knotted to his neck with a strong rope
Red ,green and violets colored his case
While theres’ no rainbow in his life
Sweets to be sold but never for his own appetite
A hunger and thirst in the glare
Illustrates the eternal flame in his heart
Craving for ardor and tenderness
A sweet dream seen in the crack of dawn ..
Never sees it’s end nor a completion
A mirage of adornment ..
Surrounds his eager heart
very sure about the pains that dwells around ..
yet the broken heart doesn’t cease to “yearn”
My advice after a divorce following 16 years of marriage, by Gerald Rogers.
Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had
Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.
Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.
Fall in love over and over again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.
Always see the best in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.
It’s not your job to change or fix her… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.
Take full accountability for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.
Never blame your wife if you get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.
Allow your woman to just be. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.
Be silly… don’t take yourself so seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.
Fill her soul everyday… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.
Be present. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.
Don’t be an idiot…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.
Give her space… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)
Be vulnerable… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.
Be fully transparent. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.
Never stop growing together… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.
Don’t worry about money. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.
Forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.
Always choose love. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.
In the end marriage isn’t about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come. Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.
These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I loved being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.
If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.
Wednesday, 18 September 2013
He who learns but does not think, is lost! He who thinks but does not learn is in great danger.
It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see.
For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.
People who think they know everything are a great annoyance to those of us who do.
Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.
The teacher who is indeed wise does not bid you to enter the house of his wisdom but rather leads you to the threshold of your mind.
“What do we live for; if it is not to make life less difficult for each other? ”
Tuesday, 17 September 2013
I don't know about your hardships, and you don't know about mine. So let's not judge each others lives.
Advice to men: Sometimes all she wants is compassion--not advice.
"When you treat people well, those same people might not treat you the same way. But if you pay attention, you'll notice that Allah has sent OTHER people who treat you even better."
Sometimes you fall only to rise higher than you were before. You fell. Now rise.
The ordinary person seeks to find and rectify the flaws in others. The extraordinary person seeks to find and rectify the flaws in himself.
If we are to witness the variety and the complexity of God's creations, Human being himself is an adequate source...
For, how many faces we see in a day's end-each being unique in their own way- and how many faces could a single being appear into, and what lies in the deep within cores of human hearts, only He knows....
Alhamdulillah that He is the Best to create!
Every heart contains a metal, a metal that is a lot stronger than you think, a metal that doesn't get broken easily, and a metal that is capable of getting rusted at the slightest mistake you make in the way treat it. Make sure that you took great care of it. Watch-out for the latter whilst considering a lot more about the rest. Being strong doesn't mean that the metal your heart holds has to be hard, cold or rough. Rather, it can still be strong even if you turned it out to be soft, tender and flexible.
You can fool the world by being phoney, but not Him.
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People usually say that when someone smiles the biggest and frequently, it's most likely they're the forced ones.
That the more someone always appears to be on top of the world, it's probable that they're holding on by a string.
Same goes if their eyes are the brightest, most likely they shed tears when no one is looking.
But do people honestly believe that?
When they see that someone has it all, do they ever think that person's broken inside?
No, they don't.
That's why people continue on with their lives, because no one will ever truly stop and ask you with the most sincerity how you are. They don't necessarily care.
It's not until someone finds you crying in a corner, it's not until someone notices that you're getting quieter and quieter as the days progress when they ask. But if you're not caught, no one sees anything. So if you continued to pull on that smile, hold in all of your emotions, and laughed along when everyone did, you will be invisibly seen. Safe and secluded.
People would still continue to think that your life is going smoothly, as happy as a clam. And sometimes, that would be the biggest lie ever to keep alive.
Living in her own world,
Full of miseries and hopeless,
She roams the land,
Giving up being selfless.
No one cares,
The pain won't stop.
It's all inside,
Not visible on top.
She smiles all day,
And cries all night.
So that nobody will know,
That she's losing her fight.
Perfecting the art,
Saying "I'm fine".
So nobody questions it,
And she's left on her line.
Did she forget the One,
Who is always there for us?
Someone who never ceases to listen,
Comforting and ending every mess.
Indeed, there's this someone Who still cares. Even if every one had given up on you, no matter what crimes you've committed, regardless of the world's whispers behind you, He will always be there for you. Ready to listen, willing to give, eager to fulfill your wishes. He knows best and is aware of everything that runs in your head, that resides in your heart and every single thing you're trying to hide from others. He knows your darkest of secrets, deepest of feelings, and all your thoughts. Nothing can be covered when it comes to Him, because He's your Master, Provider, Saviour, and your Everything.
Ask Him, and you'll always be granted.
Have faith on Him, and you'll never be alone.
Rely on Him, and you'll always be cared.
Trust Him, and you'll always be loved.
Bitter Irony- a reminder
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Some of us sometimes are ready to fight for those deprived souls in the faraway lands,
Yet we forget the hapless souls we meet everyday in our lives depriving them of our care and a kind word...
We all want to hold those ruthless murderers and cold blooded morons in the form of leaders, accountable for their heartless acts,
But sometimes we tend to forget the hearts we break, lives we put at stake for our cheap desires and the betrayals we make in minor or major manners...
Of course we are concerned for mother earth and saving her from the worst,
Still we leave our leaking taps unnoticed, fans running to their on accord for hours or perhaps days, our fridges unnecessarily open and all those food going into the waste basket-we do not even care, do we?
And yeah, we are so worried for those cries of the scorched in the far away lands
Wait a moment, isn't that shoe the fifth pair for this year? and oh yes, we don't have anything fit enough to wear for the rest of the week.
So, let's go on breaking hearts, of which humanity is made of.
Let's keep on folding our hands and keeping all our wealth to ourselves alone, which the poor are deprived of.
Let those unnecessary lights on, let them burn, from the source taken from a wounded planet.
And yes of course, We are the saviours of Humanity, the harbingers of Peace and the sentinels of our beloved Planet.
This is the pathetic state we come across today. When we have so much unfulfilled within our own perimeters, how can we even start think of contributing on a Global scale? Act first, for what is within your reach, if each of us take this to heart a Peaceful Humanity in a Beautiful Planet shall bloom, I believe...
Few thoughts first for myself and the rest beyond...
Monday, 16 September 2013
Wednesday, 4 September 2013
Tuesday, 3 September 2013
Love in action...
After we left CHC I announced "Hey Nick, looks like we have to do a very un-glamourous stop at the gas station. Nick laughed so hard and said, "WHAT? In all my Asian travels so far, I've never stopped for gas once. So yeah, why not let's do that." When we stopped at BHP, Sunway, a man walked up to me and asked if he could bring his daughter to see Nick... he said, "Anak perempuan saya exactly like Nick... baru 6 tahun Encik.. boleh tak? Tolong Encik." (I've never been broken with a simple question before... till now... )
I turned around and asked Nick but before I could finish my sentence, Nick said "BRING EM OVER" with a beaming smile... And then after a lot of tears and hugging and kissing, Nick invited them over to our hotel, and we had such a great time chatting and exchanging pains, hurts, practical ideas and so forth...
And then we found that this family had driven 7 hours down from Terengannu just to meet Nick. They were so determined and desperate to make sure their daughter saw Nick but they were late and were refused entry... So they waited another 4 hours, and gave up. They somehow went to the same gas station as we did, and when they saw us, well... you know the rest of the story...
Monday, 2 September 2013
Sunday, 1 September 2013
'A happy marriage is not fulfilled except by you understanding your wife, and she you, and by enduring her and she you. If she does not understand you, understand her. If she cannot endure you, endure her.'
'A honourable husband conceals the bad traits of his wife even from her guardians.
And a dishonourable husband speaks of her bad traits even to her foes.'
This is what marriage really means: helping one another to reach the full status of being persons, responsible beings who do not run away from life
Do not let your dislike for someone make you unjust...
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"One of the nicest things you can do for yourself is to give yourself the time and space to simply take in the beauty that is around you."
“We are quick to talk about the children of others negatively but forget that we have children too.”
— Mufti Ismail Menk
Making one person smile can change the world – maybe not the whole world, but their world.
When I was Younger ★ ◕‿.◕ ★
• I'd put my arms in my shirt and
told people I lost my arms
• Would restart the video game
whenever I knew I was going to lose
• Had that one pen with four colors,
and tried to push all the buttons at
• Waited behind a door to scare
someone, then leaving because
they're taking too long to come out.
• Faked being asleep, so I could be
carried to bed
• Watching two drops of rain roll
down window and pretending it was
• Swallowed a fruit seed I was
scared to death that a tree was
going to grow in my tummy
Remember when we were kids and
couldn't wait to grow up?
"A smile can hide the truth, the mouth can whisper lies, but the eyes always reveal what's hidden below the surface."
“It’s not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it.”
Be grateful for everything you have, because for something you treat like dust, would be treated like gold if it was given to someone else.
It is Hard to Accept the Truth when the Lies were Exactly what You Wanted to Hear.
People don’t notice the things others do for them until they stop
Doing them Be grateful to your loved ones & see all that they do for you.