Sometimes ALLAH breaks your spirit to save your souls. 
Sometimes, HE breaks our heart to make us whole.
Sometimes,  ALLAH   allows pain so we can be stronger. 
Sometimes,  ALLAH   sends us failure so we can be humble. 
Sometimes,  ALLAH   allows illness so we can take better care of ourselves. 
Sometimes,  ALLAH   takes everything away from us so we can learn the value of everything HE gave us..
Make plans but understand that we live by ALLAH  's grace..Ameen

It's easy to minimize a person's hurt without understanding the nature of pain. People often like to categorize how much a person should or shouldn't hurt about things. For example, when someone is upset about something, they say, "At least you're not paralyzed, or starving in Africa." While it's imperative to be grateful for what we have, I think people often mistaken the nature of pain, when they 'categorize' in this way. A relationship break up can hurt more than being struggling with cancer (real story). The criteria for how much something hurts is not dependent on the thing itself. It is dependent on 2 things:
1. The strength of the attachment.
2. The level of divine help.

Therefore to minimize the devastation of pain:
1. Don't be attached to (dependent on) temporary things
2. Seek Divine help

And don't assign judgement for people's pain.

Everyone deserves water to drink, so shower your kindness on sinners and saints alike.

People will see different things in you: relief, or comfort, or a fearsome sign of a storm. Pay no attention to any of that; but do your job peacefully.

It’s a beautiful thing to provide shade on a hot day (to comfort those in distress).

You sometimes drift aimlessly, but by the will of ALLAH , you get in the right drift and current again.

Oppose evil with thunder and lightning, but with others be soft as cotton.

Not everything is what it seems: the darker the cloud, the more water it carries within, to cleanse the earth and bring new life.

Never forget, you are mainly made from water. Make sure to always replenish yourself with pure sustenance.

There’s a rainbow right behind the storm.
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