When someone is going through a trial, it is highly inconsiderate to ask about details, it can be traumatic and heart breaking to relate the ABC's. They don't want to delve into details or questioning, they want reassurance, reminders, and most of the time, time to reflect, on their own. They need to know you care, and this is done by du'as, a non-judgmental nature when you visit, call or comment, and giving them the space to recover with their close and loved ones.

Two prophetic statements amplify this. “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “Part of the perfection of a person’s Islam is his leaving that which is of no concern to him." At-Tirmidhi. Secondly, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), sat with the companions and advised them: "None of you will have faith till he wishes for his (Muslim) brother what he likes for himself." Sahih Muslim.













People are human.
Let them be.
Let them learn.
Encourage, don't discourage.
Advise, don't condemn.
Love, don't hate.
Guide, don't ostracise.
Plant hope, not seeds of despair.
This is the Prophetic way.













We cannot judge others tests, and sins. We just can't. Yes, there are cases when someones actions impacts another, and it must be condemned. However, there are many struggling souls, who need a helping hand, and a guiding voice to lead them back to God. As the famous saying goes, you truly know who your friends are when you fall, they help you, rather than leave you at the bottom of the well, or sell you off, for a measly price. Let us be that friend, in hope that during our dark days, we will be helped, as we helped others.




We may be protected from a sin, or a test, because we can't handle it, whereas someone else may have such inner strength, that God is preparing her for something greater. We should be grateful that we have been protected, and if we have made mistakes in our past, use this experience and empathy to help others.

Truly, God loves those who are just.




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