This is especially for all the men out there who do not understand the tears of a woman; they say and assume that women cry for no reason.
But stated below are the true reasons..
When Allah made the woman she had to be made so special. He made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort.
He gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that comes from her children.
He gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.
He gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child hurts her very badly.
He gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.
He gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfaltering.
And lastly, He gave her a tear. This is hers and only hers exclusively to use whenever she needs it. She needs no reason, no explanation, its hers.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the beauty of her face, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart – the place where love resides.
That is why we say that: "The most strength of water is in the tears of a woman."
And this is also to all the women out there. You are wonderful, beautiful, strong, determined and love by Allah.
May Allah keep you all steafast upon His obedience and help you to remain strong with the observation of your hijabs - Aameen.
"Don't depend too much on anyone in this world... because even your own shadow leaves you when you are in darkness!" - [Quoted by Shaykh Ibn Taymiyyah]
"Anyone who criticizes you cares about your friendship. Anyone who makes light of your faults cares nothing about you." - Ibn Hazm
Boxer Muhammad Ali's advice to
his Daughter....
The following incident took place when Muhammad Ali's daughters
arrived at his home wearing clothes that were not modest
Here is the story as told by one of his daughters:
When we finally arrived, the chauffeur escorted my younger sister,
Laila, and me up to my father's suite. As usual, he was hiding
behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged many hugs
and kisses as we could possibly give in one day.
My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down on his lap
and said something that I will never forget. He looked me
straight in the eyes and said,
"Hana, everything that God madevaluable in the world is covered and hard to get to.
Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered andprotected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottomof the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell.Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over withlayers and layers of rock. You've got to work hard to get to them.
"Your body is sacred.You're far more precious than diamonds and pearls, andyou should be covered too.
Source: Taken from the book: More Than A Hero:
Muhammad Ali's Life Lessons Through His Daughter's Eyes.
Rocks & Sands
A professor stood before his class and had some items in front of him. When class began, wordlessly he picked up a large empty jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks about 2” in diameter.
He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.
He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The students laughed. The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this is your life. The rocks are the important things - your deen, your salah, your family, your partner, your children - anything that is so important to you that if it were lost, you and your akhirah would be nearly destroyed.
“The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car. “The sand is everything else. The small stuff.
“If you put the sand into the jar first, there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your energy and time on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important.
“Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness and welfare. Take time to repent to your Lord. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house and visit your friends.
“Take care of the rocks first - the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”
Muslim Husband:
Share this with your spouse and friends
No one ever thinks about the characteristics of a Muslim husband. It is always what a wife should do for the husband....and the list never ends; cooking, cleaning, washing; you name it, she is doing it, so what about the brothers? Our beloved Prophet SAW was not THIS lazy, so why the men of this ummah. It is quite interesting, so I thought I'd share it with you !!! What a Muslim husband should be like...
1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time you went shopping for designer pyjamas? Just like the
husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that the Prophet (PBUH) would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
2. Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.
3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.
4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways the Prophet (PBUH) used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives (R.A).It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.
5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when the Prophet (PBUH) would kiss his wife before leaving for Salaah, even when he was fasting.
6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgment she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!
7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.
8. Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. The Prophet (PBUH) set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah (R.A) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.
9. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet (PBUH) would race with his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (PBUH): 'The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family.' Try to be the best!
In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - ta'ala to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best!!
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